Take Care Of Business
It’s amazing to lend a helping hand and be there for others, at the same time there should be no reason as to why you are saving the world and you are not taking care of business… YOUR business! That means your priorities and responsibilities! I have learned that there are certain things in life that only you will be able to take care of. That business you want to start, the book you want to write or marathon you want to run… it’s not going to happen because you waved a magic wand! You’re going to have to assess your life and evaluate where your time and energy is being spent. Unlike money, time, once it’s spent you can never get it back.
I have always had a hard time creating healthy boundaries in regards to helping people, but Thank God I have become a lot better at it. I am still a work in progress but I have come a long way. Grad school taught me the harsh reality of managing responsibility and time management. I am grateful for my Masters in Public Relations & Corporate Communications, but it was not a walk in the park, my degree was only attained through faith and perseverance!
Diary of a [former] Grad Student
About two years in the program, My life was way out of balance! I was overwhelmed, overcommitted and overbooked. There was one instance when I thought, “It’s a wrap,” “The fat lady has sung”…. I knew I bombed my midterm. I walked to my car, closed the door and began to cry! The way grad school works is basically you’re always on thin ice, any false moves, you can get kicked out of the program. When the grades came back I was not surprised. I walked into my advisor’s office the next day, I had my withdraw papers in hand, ready to drop the course. She told me that she believed in me and that although I did horribly on my test, I was doing a great job on my research paper. “You have come too far to give up now” she said! That was my wake up call.
As much as I loved helping people and being a part of the mix, I had to set my priorities. I cut back on everything! Why? I had to take care of MY business; no one else was going to do it for me! I realized no one was going to type my 35 page papers, but me, no one was going to leave the computer lab at one in the morning for me, no one was going to take my final for me, I had to make it the study groups… I had to do it! (Mind you, that wasn’t even my only class.) I burned the midnight oil and had sleepless nights.… DRUM ROLL PLEASE… I came out of that class with an A. #GodRocks I am not trying to say I did it all alone, I had great support from God, my classmates, family and friends but the bottom line is I had to do my part!!!
I shared my experience to ask… What do you have on the line right now? Is it your dreams because you’re too busy rescuing the world, Is it your relationship, because you don’t have any time to spend with your significant other, or is it your relationship with God because you’re to busy serving Him, but not spending time with Him.
Multi-tasking is great but when you spread yourself too thin… something will suffer because of it! Let me be the first to say life does happen… although I cut back on many things I had life circumstances thrown my way that I could not control (we’ll chat about those on another day), but the things I could control, I got rid of! I started telling people NO! That meant saying YES to me for a change!I realized when I dropped the ball, and took a step back it allowed people to step up and take ownership of their own responsibilities. I stopped picking up the slack for those who were slacking, I stopped carrying the weight that I wasn’t meant to carry! I did not allow certain individuals to take advantage of me any longer. Even the things I WANTED to do, I had to pick and choose! I could not go to every social, pot luck or get together! It wasn’t easy but it had to be done.
Get rid of the time wasters in your life and write that blog. Get rid of the takers in your life and pursue your dreams. Take off the “cape” and take care of business YOUR Business. Make time for the things that are important to you! Your purpose is depending on it.